Has Tinder Ruined Modern Dating?


Dating, it’s something that can be very time consuming and at the same time very enjoyable. Dating these days is a hell of a lot different than it was even 5 years ago. Dating sites and apps have made it easier to meet people and decide if you actually want to go on a date with them or not, but have these dating sites and apps ruined modern dating? Many people that I’ve talked to say they would rather be single for one reason or another, which I feel is very different from when these apps and dating sites did not exist. Here are a few reasons why I think Tinder and other dating apps have ruined modern dating.

I think one of the main reasons why modern dating is changing and why many people want to be single is choice. At any point in time I can jump on Tinder or any other dating app and match up with someone and decide if I want to ask them out or not. I could easily go on 3-4 dates a week if I really wanted to. Or maybe I start talking to someone then someone else grabs my attention. Maybe the person I am talking to or getting to know does something to piss me off or make me mad, I can open one of these apps and start talking to someone. This is a common theme I see with people who are in relationships, we’ve all seen it, you know when you see someone who you know is clearly in a relationship pop up on Tinder. Having the choice of multiple people to talk to makes is very hard to actually want to narrow it down to a single one.

They Are Talking To Multiple People
Now on the other hand if you are a person who really wants to settle down and you happen to meet someone on one of these sites or apps you will slowly learn that they are like the above example. They are talking to or dating multiple people at once. They like that they can get attention at anytime by opening the app and talking to people. In my experience it is very hard to actually date someone like that as they have a constant need for that attention. Most people I’ve met via online dating are always talking to multiple people.

Wanna F&*K?
If you are a girl on Tinder or any other dating site I’m sure you’ve heard this line before. Well guess what girls say it too. For guys, do you actually think this is going to work? For the girls that are saying it, major turn-off! Sadly this is what Tinder and other dating sites have turned into. So you have to weed through the creeps to actually find someone that can hold a real conversation.

It’s Work!
We live in an age where everything in instant. When you start a conversation with someone on one of these dating sites it’s like you have to sit there and message them all day. If you set the phone down for any period of time they either move on to someone else or get mad that you haven’t responded within 10 minutes! I really is work some of the time!

You Really Don’t Know The Person
We are deciding if we want to go out with these people primarily based on photos and chatting for a little bit. That does not really mean we know this person all that well. For the most part the girls I’ve gone on dates with from these apps are not friends with anyone I know so it’s not like I can ask around about them or anything. These people could be total creeps, look nothing like their photos, have a habit you can’t stand, etc. It is quite odd going out with someone you’ve never met before and that none of your friends know. So either these dates go well, or extremely bad and I’ve heard many horror stories!

At the end of the day apps like Tinder have made it much easier to meet people, but at the same time they have changed whole dynamic of dating in this modern age. Do you use Tinder or a similar dating app? Let me know you story in the comments below!

How You Can Spot Fake Internet “Guru’s”


Ever since the internet was started there have been people out there ripping people off and today it is no different. Sadly, because of this when I tell people I make a living online they think I am doing some type of shady marketing or something like that. The truth is I am living proof that you can make a living online without doing anything shady, ripping people off, etc. Hell most of the money I earn online is made via advertising, I don’t really sell anything. Over the years many of my friends have been duped into buying these “make money online” programs ultimately have lost money and more importantly did not really learn much on how to actually make money online. These fake internet “guru’s” have ways of making the ordinary person think that they are legit. Here are some tips to help you spot fake internet gurus so you don’t get duped yourself.

They want you to purchase something right away
Many of the real internet guru’s that I do know or follow have blog out there where they provide free content. Every once in awhile they will have a course or product that they want you to buy. The fake gurus out there will only have paid content. This is mainly because one they are not a real guru that realizes that free content will lead to people buying the paid content and two they rely on this paid content or products too much as their main business. See these fake gurus will try and say something like “buy my course and I’ll show you how to make money online”, but they actually make most of their money online selling you the course! So if someone does not have free content out there it is likely they are a fake!

Extraordinary claims & overnight success
You see this all of the time! You see people saying they made a million dollars in just a few months, in their first week they are making thousands, screenshots of insane paydays, pictures of them next to exoctic cars etc. If it was that easy for them and they are showing you how to do it wouldn’t everyone be doing it? It is likely that that screenshot of the payment is fake, those cars are not even theirs and their claims are false. 99% of the time it takes YEARS to build a successful online business. It is very easy to call bullshit on many of these overnight success stories. I think that Gary Vaynerchuk’s Overnight Success video really explains what I mean.

Most people who I know that are successful online or in any business really are not overnight successes. You have to realize that those stories are the 1% and when you hear an internet marketer saying you could have success like this by just buying their program it is total bullshit and just a sensational story to grab your attention. Again as I’ve always said with this business is if it was so easy why isn’t everyone doing it? Do they like their 9-5 that much? If you are hearing this outrageous claims and they are not backing them up or proving it can be replicated, then you are dealing with another fake internet guru who just wants you to buy their program.

No dates on or comments on blog posts
This is one of the most common things I see when it comes to fake gurus. Some of these fake gurus might actually have a blog with some posts, but for some odd reason there are no dates on these posts. You know why? Because they are not actually actively blogging! They create their “make money online” program and need a few blog posts to promote it and make them look legit. So they either write these posts or likely pay someone to write them and they put them up in the form of a blog. With no dates they can make people think that their content is still relevant (just written) and that they are actively blogging. Meanwhile it could have been written years ago. I also see that a lot of these fake gurus will have comments disabled on their blog posts. Wouldn’t you want feedback from your readers? Have an active community? The reason many of them disable comments is one they don’t want live criticism to be displayed on these posts. You don’t want someone saying your program taught them nothing. Also comments will have the date on them revealing when the posts was actually put online, something these fake gurus don’t want people to know.

They don’t practice what they preach
This is something I see quite a lot when it comes to social media. Someone claims to be a social media guru yet they don’t use it! How are you supposed to advise me on Instagram marketing when you don’t use it at all? Or they say they are an SEO expert but if you take a look at their blog it does not use any of the SEO tactics that they say you should use. If a marketer is trying to sell you a course or program that they say they are an expert on are they actually using that technique or service? If not it is likely you are dealing with a fake guru!

Hopefully these tips will help you weed out the fake internet gurus out there so you don’t end up wasting your money on program or service that really isn’t going to do much for you. If you have an experience about a fake internet guru let me know in the comments!

A Summer On The Water


As it gets into Fall and Winter I am finally going to start trying to have a regular blog schedule. So expect a lot more blogging about what I have going on, business, and more in the coming months.

This post is something I have been wanting to write for a while because the past two summers have been unlike any other really. For the past two summers I have spent most of my time on the water. So many of my friends have boats and it is just a great feeling to be out on the water. So here is a little recap of what my summer on the water has been like!


There are so many events in Pittsburgh in the summer that focus on the rivers. This year for the first time I saw the fireworks at the point from a boat, which was amazing. Other great events to be on the water for are Pirates and Steelers games. It’s like we have our own little boat community that comes out for these events.

Boat Parties

A summer is not complete without boat parties and there were quite a lot of them this year! Again the community of boaters in Pittsburgh that want to have fun is great and there never is drama. Some of the memorable boat parties this summer were Gabe’s Memorial Day party, the big tie-off by Sandcastle, and the two Pier Parties, where we found an old abandoned pier and decided to have a party on it, complete with a DJ!

Water Sports

Being on the river means there are a lot of fun activities to do. This year I learned to wakeboard and paddleboard for the first time. Wakeboarding was a little hard at first, but by the end of the summer I was able to get up on the board. It is a really great feeling! Paddleboarding is not as hard and is actually a pretty good workout! I can’t wait till next year so I can get better at both!

Just Relaxing

There is something about being on the water that is just relaxing. There were so many times this summer that we just took the boat out and maybe tied up to 1 or 2 other boats and hung out. It was definitely a great way to spend a summer day. Summer sunsets are amazing to watch on the river and it just feels like you are in another world. Again, so relaxing and just chill. Much better than spending a night in a bar or a club.

Being on the river this summer and last summer really made me fall back in love with Pittsburgh. There is just something different about being on the water that I love. Next summer can’t come soon enough…

The #TIM09 Shipment from Quarterly


Another Quarterly shipment arrived a couple of weeks ago! This is the 9th Quarterly shipment from Tim Ferriss or #TIM09. I have been subscribed to Quarterly since Tim’s second box. Quarterly is a little different from the typical monthly subscription boxes. First it is every quarter and secondly you pick a curator. The curator then picks the items that are in your box. I am a Tim Ferriss fan so I am into the same things as him so his boxes should have tings I like in them. This is one thing I like about Quarterly is you never know what you are going to get.

With the Tim Ferriss Quarterly boxes on thing that started happening is that they have been late, not showing up every quarter. I’m not sure what the reason for this is, but it can be frustrating. To make up for this Tim sent his subscribers a $25 iTunes gift card to hold them over, which was nice. We will factor that into the total value of #TIM09. So what all came in #TIM09?


Rishi Tea Simple Brew Loose Leaf Teapot – $24
Spiceologist Black and Bleu Rub – $14.20
The Crossroads of Should and Must by Elle Luna – $9.51
Thera Cane Max – $39.88
Zot Xtreme Organic Licorice – $3
Urine Reagent Strips, 100 count – $7.99
Ketonix Breath Ketone Analyzer discount Code – $75

So I do have to mention that Ketonix Keytone Analyzer’s are around $150 so getting $75 off a product that you still have to buy does not really count. So we are not including that in the total price of the box. So for the $100 you get $123.58 worth of products including the $25 iTunes gift card, which is not that bad, although previous Tim Ferriss boxes seemed to have a better value.

So what did I like? The Rishi teapot I will definitely use! I have needed a new one for a while especially since it is getting colder here. The Black and Bleu rub I have already used and I really like it! The The Crossroads of Should and Must has been added to my reading list, it is never a bad thing to get a book.

I probably won’t have much use for the Keytone test strips and like I said the discount code is sort of useless if you don’t care about keytones. I haven’t had the chance to use the Thera Can yet, I might give it a try.

Overall the box was pretty good, but as I said previous Tim Ferriss boxes have had a better value.

Things I Do Differently In My 30’s


Last month I turned 31! The first full year in my 30’s has been an interesting one to say the least. I was thinking over the past few days at how I carry myself and how I do things differently now that I’m in my 30’s. Here are a few things that really stand out to me…

I don’t put up with bullshit – In my 20’s I feel like I put up with a lot of bullshit and let a lot of things go. This not only was with business, but in my personal life as well. I let people work for me who were not giving me their best work, I let people feed me excuses, and I put up with things in the relationships I was in that I shouldn’t have. Now I don’t have time for any of that I don’t put up with any of it. If someone is not doing their job they are done, if they make some lame excuse they are done, and if someone I’m dating is being shady or something like that they are done. I think a lot of the relationship stuff goes back to my Why I’m OK Being 30 and Single post, which you should definitely read!

Taking better care of myself – I guess as you get older it is harder to stay in shape. Over the past few years I’ve really changed my diet. I do a lot of meal prep and eat a lot of the same things. This routine I have makes it easy and I really do not have cravings for bad food like eating an entire package of Oreo’s like I used to on a weekly basis! When it comes to working out I trying and get to the gym a few times a week, which I have been able to keep up with. I would like to make it a daily thing again, we will see how that goes.

Put more time into work – I wouldn’t say that I did bad work before, but it could have been better. A lot of time I put in what was required, but no more. I don’t know what it was or why I changed things up, but I have been putting a lot more time into work. If its adding more detail and new testing methods to ThinkComputers reviews, to starting the ThinkComputers Podcast, to launching Look-Social, to working all day and even on weekends I have really been putting all I have into work and it has paid off.

Really appreciate the moment – It’s crazy how time flies. We go out with friends, party, travel, experience new things, etc. Then in a month or a year it is just a memory. Many times in my 20’s I did some amazing things, but I feel like I was so caught up in the moment that I didn’t really get to appreciate it. Now anytime I am doing anything I really take the time to appreciate that I am able to do the things I am doing.

Helping friends achieve success – I guess when I started ThinkComputers that’s all I really thought about, it occupied most of my time and I really did not have time to work on anything else. This included helping friends out with their businesses. I think that is the case with anyone when they are starting a company. Now that I have a handle on things I have taken quite a lot of time to help friends build their businesses or even just help them out with things. Nothing feels better than helping one of your close friends achieve success.

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